What I reflected upon instead was how fortunate we are to be in the position to have a stay at homeparent. To be in the position where we don't have to worry about daycares and discrimination. To have one of our children's parents to be at home during the day to bake cookies, make dinner, organize our house for our renovation and to manage many of the day to day demands of running a household.
I'm in the unique position that the person doing all of this isn't me, but rather is the kids dad.
We've had Phoenix in a daycare and in a dayhome in the last and both have been wonderful experiences. When the twins came along money was absolutely the primary factor in having Mike stay home. Child care for 3 kids would be astronomical. Probably around $3000/month. Way more than we could afford if we wanted to keep the roof over our heads.
So today I was feeling grateful for having a stay at home partner. Having 3 kids who are thriving. Having a mom whom I see every day and eat dinner with every night. Thankful for home cooked meals and cookies that I don't have to make.
Thankful that I know my kids are being cared for while I'm out pursuing my passion.
I'm also thankful for a number of students who have thanked me recently for the time and energy I've put into them. I don't consider myself overly close to these students, but I have consistently greeted and shown interest in them over the last 3-4 years as they have come and gone as is typical in my school environment. These students both commented how they liked my presence, felt cared about and felt like I took an interest in their lives, which I did and still do.
As teachers we don't always get feedback about how we have impacted a students life. I know I do make an impact. I know students feel accepted and encouraged. I try my best to help students feel successful and to plan school work students feel good about doing.
I also know that my role as Phoenix's mother greatly impacts my feelings about my students and how they all have potential to contribute meaningfully in this world in some way. That's not nothing.
And here's a picture of Phoenix from this past weekend. She's a natural on the tractor.